Introduction
A. Background of Study
Lying is doing something, or telling something that is not true. People do it intentionally, may be it for a good's sake, or the bad's. It's part of a person's everyday lives. A person can't last a day without lying. Sometimes, people wouldn't even noticed that you just lied because it's a normal thing. For example, just by greeting someone, asking them if how they're doing when you actually don't care. It seems good but a lie is still a lie.
Ulrich Boser wrote an article entitled, "We're All Lying Liars: Why people Tell Lies, and Why White Lies Can Be Ok". According to it, people tend to lie for about 2 or 3 times in every 10 minutes. The reason why people lie is because people want to gain rewards, for example, to protect a friend or a lover.
Boser said, "Admit it: You've lied. You told a friend that his shirt looked stylish when you actually thought it was tacky and garish. Or maybe you said to your boss that her presentations were fascinating when in fact they were insipidly mindless. Or perhaps you told your landlord that the rent check was in the mail. Don't feel bad. You're in good, dishonest company. A growing body of research shows that people lie constantly, that deception is pervasive in everyday life."
(http://www.health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/brain-and-behavior/articles/2009/05/18/were-all-lying-liars-why-people-tell-lies-and-why-white-lies-can-be-ok)
Teachers and Professor of Psychology. This research can help teachers an professors who teaches students of psychology. Then can gain and learn some new things in this research paper, and teach them to students.
Consequence. Something that happens as a result of a particular action or set of conditions, (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/consequence)
Deception. The act of making someone believe something that is not true : the act of deceiving someone. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/deception)
Dishonest. characterized by lack of truth, honesty, or trustworthines (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dishonest)
Lie. To make an untrue statement with intent to deceive. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lie)
Ulrich Boser wrote an article entitled, "We're All Lying Liars: Why people Tell Lies, and Why White Lies Can Be Ok". According to it, people tend to lie for about 2 or 3 times in every 10 minutes. The reason why people lie is because people want to gain rewards, for example, to protect a friend or a lover.
Boser said, "Admit it: You've lied. You told a friend that his shirt looked stylish when you actually thought it was tacky and garish. Or maybe you said to your boss that her presentations were fascinating when in fact they were insipidly mindless. Or perhaps you told your landlord that the rent check was in the mail. Don't feel bad. You're in good, dishonest company. A growing body of research shows that people lie constantly, that deception is pervasive in everyday life."
(http://www.health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/brain-and-behavior/articles/2009/05/18/were-all-lying-liars-why-people-tell-lies-and-why-white-lies-can-be-ok)
Lying makes people socially acceptable. Everyone do it in order to socialize with everybody. It is even said that it seems better to tell a small lie than having someone worrying unnecessarily, or becoming sad, or losing momentum. It still has some positive effects, but even though, there are still consequences that people need to face when they tell lies.
An author named Chris Cotter wrote an article entitled, "Lies, A Part Of Human Nature". According to it, it's a fact that everyone lies every day points to the conclusion that untruths are an indivisible part of human nature. We tell lies to make problems less daunting. For example, one of your loved ones asks if how are you doing, you tell that person that you're fine because you don't want that person to worry.
Cotter said, "From a very young age, we're told not to lie, but we're also simultaneously lied to about Santa Claus, or about the pet dog's death. We're similarly told to lie in order to avoid hurting another's feelings."
People have this nature in them where they can't stand people who's close to us, getting hurt. So they tell lies in order for them to feel better. Just like what their parents told them when they were still kids, about Santa Claus, tooth fairies, or fairy tales, they told them that to make them feel happy. And in the future, everyone be doing the same for their kids. But, this is one of the reason why people learn to lie.
An author named Po Bronson wrote an article entitled "Learning to Lie". According to it, kids learned how to lie because their parents teach them to. Parents don't exactly tell their kids to lie, but kids see them doing it. Kids see their parents as one of their role models, so when one of the parents, they'll copy it.
Bronson said, "Consider how we expect a child to act when he opens a gift he doesn't like. We instruct him to swallow all his honest reactions and put on a polite smile."
Peopl learnt how to lie when they were kids so it's normal to lie. It is said that lying is part of people's nature. But that doesn't mean people can't avoid it. Anyone can and people need to avoid it. As I've said, there are consequences when you lie, may be it a white lie, or a black lie. Therefore, a lie is still a lie. One of the consequence people might face is the effect of lies in a relationship.
An author named Martie Lownsberry wrote an article entitles "How Can Lying Affect a Relationship". According to it, a lie can destroy a strong built relationship. Trust and respect built one strong relationship. It is said that without these two, a relationship is doomed to suffer if not fail. If you lie, it can destroy the two most most important ingredient in relationship. If you lie, you'll lose their trust and leave your partner disrespected.
Lownsberry said, "Doubting someone you love puts a strain on the relationship that never quite goes away. The person being lied too may feel the need to verify everything you say to them. Over time, this erodes the relationship. While one partner gets weary of not being able to trust their partner, the other partner begins to weary of never being trusted. Arguments can ensure, and even acting out of anger and a sense of frustration may occur making it even harder for trust to be reestablished."
Lying really can give a huge impact on one's relationship with anyone. But it is said that lying in unstoppable. However, researcher observes that lying can be avoidable. There are several ways on how to know if someone is lying.
Having an idea when someone is lying can help people. When you caught someone lying and confront them, sure they'll not lie again. This can help people to stop lying and it'll be easy for people to not be fooled easily.
The purpose of this making this paper is to help people know the bad effects of lying. And also, to help the reader to easily figure out when someone is lying to them.
B. Statement of the Problem.
This study aims to answer the question:
1. What are the different ways to figure out if someone is lying?
C. Significance of Study.
College students of Psychology. This research paper would help college students who are taking Bachelor of Science in Psychology to know more or to get more ideas about the background of lying. College students can take this research paper as an activity to figure out liars.
Teachers and Professor of Psychology. This research can help teachers an professors who teaches students of psychology. Then can gain and learn some new things in this research paper, and teach them to students.
Parents. This research paper would help parents to have knowledge about lies. This research paper will help them to know how honest their family is. And also, this will help them to improve their family bond.
Future Researcher. This research paper can help future researcher to gain more knowledge about this topic. This will help them understand the topic more. This can be their basis for researcher's activities. And also, they'll learn things on how to figure out liars.
D. Scope and Delimitation.
This research focuses on the different ways on how to know when someone is lying. Lying is one of the most dangerous situations that can destroy relationships. Lying has huge impact on everyone's lives so it must be avoided at all cost.
This research will no longer focus on the psychological effects of Lies. This will mainly focus on knowing when someone is lying at what it can do to improve people's relationship with each other.
E. Materials and Methods.
The sources that was used in this research are mostly gathered from online articles that discusses lies and relationship.
Datas were analyzed by pointing and discussing ways on how lying affect everyone. Articles were gathered to form ways on how to figure liars.
The sources that was used in this research are mostly gathered from online articles that discusses lies and relationship.
Datas were analyzed by pointing and discussing ways on how lying affect everyone. Articles were gathered to form ways on how to figure liars.
F.. Definition of Terms.
Consequence. Something that happens as a result of a particular action or set of conditions, (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/consequence)
Deception. The act of making someone believe something that is not true : the act of deceiving someone. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/deception)
Dishonest. characterized by lack of truth, honesty, or trustworthines (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dishonest)
Lie. To make an untrue statement with intent to deceive. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lie)
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