BLOGPOST #4: "LOOK INTO MY EYES"

Have you ever heard of the saying that if you look directly to the eye of the person, you can see if he's lying or not? Well, basically for me, I heard that a lot. Others say it's true because a lying person can't look directly into the eyes while some don't.

I read an article entitled "The truth about lying: it's the hands that betray you, not the eyes" by Adam Sherwin in the site independent.co.uk which states that the "lying eyes" are actually a myth. Professor Richard Wiseman, a psychologist from the University of Hertfordshire, conducted a research says that verbal hesitations and excessive hand gestures may prove a better guide to whether a person is telling untruths.

Many psychologists believe that when a person looks up to their right they are likely to be telling a lie. Looking up to the left, on the other hand, is said to show honesty.But the experts are wrong, according to Professor Wiseman and his team of researchers, who tested whether eyes really can reveal lies.

The claimed link between lying and eye movements is a key element of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), a method of enhancing people's lives using psychological techniques. An important aspect of NLP involves teaching people about the relationship between their eye movements and their thoughts. According to the theory, when right-handed people look up to their right they are likely to be visualizing a "constructed" event. In contrast, when they look to their left they are likely to be visualizing a "remembered" memory. For this reason, when liars are constructing their own version of the truth, they tend to look to the right.

Co-author Dr. Caroline Watt, from the University of Edinburgh, said: "A large percentage of the public believes that certain eye movements are a sign of lying, and this idea is even taught in organisational training courses. Our research provides no support for the idea and so suggests that it is time to abandon this approach to detecting deceit." We should not assume that everybody is a liar but they can be a liar. So we should be careful enough, even our friends can lie to us. I'm not saying that leave your friends. You should just be careful in everything that you will say if it's the truth or not.

In another article I read entitled, "The truth about lying" by Jenna Mcarthy from the site realsimple.com. Stated that, Most lies aren’t meant to be hurtful to others; rather, they’re meant to help the one doing the fibbing. For self-preservation. While it may be instinctual, people who frequently cover up innocent errors may start to feel as if they have permission to be irresponsible. Also, lying for them to shift the blame on others.

David Smith said, “It lets you manipulate the way you want to be seen by others.” Though lying can have a advantage still lying is not right. But sometimes it applies to a situation. Manipulating the minds of the other is not good. You are making them believe a story that you made up in order to see in you what you want to be seen.