BLOGPOST #2: EFFECTS OF LIE IN A RELATIONSHIP

How can a lie affect people's relationship towards each other? I'm sure that all of us had experience lying to someone; friends, partners, family etc., and the strong relationship built with that someone somehow slowly crashed because of little lies, may be it white lie or not.

According to an article named "The 7 D's of Relationship Destruction" from the site www.psychologytoday.com, Barton Goldsmith stated that if you don't tell the whole truth as soon as possible, when your mate finds out, it could kill your relationship. Whatever it was you did that you need to fess up to, do it now, so it can be forgiven and dropped. The lies only get more complicated as you withhold the truth, and your partner will only distrust you more when those lies are revealed.

Everybody knows that in a relationship, as much as possible, you must avoid lying for trust is one of the most important key to build a strong relationship.Think how your partner must feel if they know you are more likely to tell a lie than the truth. If you were to quit being a liar however, and stop telling lies on a regular basis, you might be surprised by how much stronger your relationship will become over time.

As Badrton Goldsmith stated, "Avoid these actions and you may actually find yourself living happily ever after" Honesty is one of the key to be in a strong relationship. Imagine your relationship if it's pure honesty and no lies, wouldn't it be happy? Living happily is one of the most wanted thing in this world, it's not easy and you must work hard on it. And if you achieve it, you'll both live happily.

But why do some people lie? In an article entitled "The Effects of Lying in Relationships" from the site www.stoplying.net, according to Debbie Williams, the reason is often to protect their partner. For example, one man decided to start lying to his wife when his business started to have financial difficulties. Although he was trying to keep her from finding out the awful truth, it came out eventually anyway – and the fallout was much worse than it would have been had he decided to stop telling lies right from the start.
The constant lying meant that when his wife did find out, she immediately lost her trust in him. And that kind of trust takes a long time to rebuild. Even though you're trying to protect someone, lying is never an option.

As Dani Johnson states, "If you aren't being truthful about the little things – you will never be trusted with the big things!". Trust is a big thing, you have to earn it. Once you have it, make sure to cherish it. I've heard that little lies won't hurt but combine all those little lies and I'm sure the trust you built will crash. 

Overall, this article states how a simple lie can affect strong strong built relationship. It says how important trust is. Trust basically completes the relationship. White lie is done to protect someone special to you. Even though it's done to protect someone, this can cause an uncomfortable feeling to someone. 

Just like the lyrics in the song "Little White Lies" by One Direction, it goes "If this room was burning, I wouldn't even notice, 'Cause you've been taking up my mind, With your little white lies, little white lies." This basically means that white lies are disturbing even though it's done to protect you. White lies are good enough, but always has a consequence behind it.